Children have all the same emotions as adults. Yet, they don’t always process them the same way. These processing differences often surface in the form of a temper tantrum. If you’re the parent of a toddler, you’ve probably experienced one of these meltdowns a time or two. The experience is overwhelming for a parent, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Learn what you can do to help you and your child manage and move past tantrums.
Remain Calm
Keep your emotions in check. Your child is already letting their feelings take the lead; the last thing you need to do is match their behavior. Don’t engage in aggressive behavior or speak loudly, as you will only make matters worse.
Recognize and accept that the tantrum is happening and at the immediate moment — there is nothing you can do to stop the event. Remember, your child isn’t exactly choosing to have the tantrum. The child just has built-up emotions they need to discharge, even though their chosen style of release isn’t the most ideal.
Highlight the Source
Discover why your child is reacting the way they are. Sure, their outbursts might seem a bit over the top, but there is always a reason behind their actions. Consider a child that has a tantrum because their milk keeps spilling from their cup, for example.
While it might seem the child is merely crying over spilled milk, in reality, the child could be thirsty and in need of a drink or they may be frustrated because they can’t resolve the problem. Talk to your child to try to trace back the why behind your child’s actions.
Don't Be Afraid to Ignore
Remember that your child will be okay if you leave them alone. Look around the room to ensure there isn’t anything nearby that poses a risk to their safety. If not, give the child some space to sort through their emotions. Cutting off the child from expressing themselves is not going to help; they need the release.
Giving your child some space offers a great way to teach the child some self-control, as well. Before long, the child will work through and resolve their feelings on their own.
Temper tantrums are a regular part of the toddler years, but these outbursts don’t have to be common. Follow these tips to help your child process their emotions a better way.
